Hi,Blessings to you all.
Today I am going to share the 8 reasons you are not as happy as you should be.
BEFORE I GET STARTED,
Life is too short to be sad.Right!Each one of us deserves to be happy.Being happy is our own choice.If you think that a happy life or a happy person is the one who has no problem in his life or who has all the facilities in life,then you are wrong.Happiness cannot be achieved by any of the above mentioned things.Happiness according to me is what is inside your mind and heart,your thoughts and attitude towards a problem.Adopting a right attitude in a stressful situation can actually give you courage and strength to fight it and come out of it.If wealth or materialistic things are the conditions for happiness then no one in the world can be happy because we can never have enough of them.But sometimes we think that we have everything but why are we not that happy and satisfied.Read the article to find out why.
Expectations always hurt.Right!You can never guess what the other person is up to.You should never expect much from others.At some point,intentionally or unintentionally a person can hurt you or may be not support you or not favor you up to your expectations. So,expect less, Not everyone who smile at you is your friend. No matter what, Learn to stand up for yourself.
#2 Blind trust
Now This is quiet related to the previous one.You can never guess what the other person is up to. And I am repeating. Not everyone who smile at you is your friend. Be very careful while choosing friends or at least while relying on others.Don’t expose your secret to everyone .It is actually better to keep them in your heart .Anyways what I am trying to tell you is that you need to be careful while dealing with people.I am not saying everyone is dishonest . I am just asking you to be careful while trusting others in any matter .Because believe in me you can lose a lot and face long term problems if you ever trust a wrong person.
#3 Judging/Guessing others’ intentions.
You can never know what others condition,situations and intentions are.When you judge people,you mostly put them in the red zone and try to guess they must have done it due to this or that,Did not get.Just wait.
Suppose , you went to a party and you see one of your friend there.you go to him and meet him.Your friend is not that responsive this day and talks to you just for a while and leave,now battling of thoughts starts in your mind.Oh he has changed.Really, he was so rude.Oh he is selfish,he only talks nicely when he want something etc etc etc.Please,you can not guess why was he behaving like that.May be he was sad and that’s why he was not interested in talking to you.May be he might be going through any problem which he does not want to share with you.So,actually when you start judging too fast you trouble your happiness and gets into unnecessary negative thoughts
#4 Finding perfection in others
This is earth and human lives here so here is no perfection.Sometimes we expect that our friends or anyone to perfect and if they commit something wrong we consider them a completely wrong/bad person.Why?Are they not humans.Can they not do a mistake.Of course they can.You can never find a perfect person.So don’t break your relations on extremely small things or mistakes of the other person.Rather be flexible,learn to forgive others,actually learn to give a chance,before making your mind.If you are too stiff to accept/or forgive others mistakes it will create unhappiness in your life because who can remain happy after breaking relations.
#5 Finding perfection in yourself
This is too unjust .Isn’t it? Don’t be too strict with your self.You can never be happy,when you try to be perfect.Embrace your imperfections.Accept yourself.Believe in me,we are perfectly imperfect.Rather than trying to be perfect,try to improve.Try to improve in your behavior.Try to be a better person.Try to be a more kind and loving person and accept yourself the way you are with all your imperfections.The world will not accept you until you yourself don’t.
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#6 Comparing yourself with others
Life is complicated not just for you but for everyone.There may be hundred of tears and pain behind a pretty smile.A person who seems happy and strong is not necessarily living a perfect life.We are often forget that and we compare our situation with others.Remember the strongest person has actually gone through the most pain.What I want to tell you is that when you compare your life with others you actually become ungrateful for all that you have.You think you have a lot less than what others have or may be you think that you are too unfortunate because you have a lot of problems in your life while others (your friends) etc are having perfect life.
”HAPPINESS BEGINS WHEN YOU STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OTHERS.”
I think jealousy is a kind of disease.A disease of your happiness and your satisfaction and a person with this can never be happy.Yes,I mean it.If a person is jealous of someone,he will think that the other person is so happy and settled,even if the person is not. So that way jealousy can never let a person stay happy and satisfied.Jealousy destroys the peace of your mind and literally I’m so sad to say but it makes you evil,unsatisfied and unhappy.
Jealously is like:
” You are drinking the poison and expecting the other person to die”
*Stay tuned for an in depth article on jealousy in the future.
#8 Trying to make everyone happy
You can’t make everyone around you happy (that’s a fact).So why not you make yourself happy.Do what satisfies you and makes you happy.
This quote is amazing;
”Don’t waste your time in explanation.People only hear what they want to hear.”
TIP TOP TIPS
- Your life is not a race.There is actually no destination and no point in your life where you can say that alright I am on the top.Not really.Don’t be extremely competitive.Just relax and just keep moving through your journey.A sense of always being in competition cannot let you stay happy.
- You don’t have to be better than anyone.The only person you have to be better is you.Yes you.You have to be better than what you were yesterday.
- Don’t forget to be kind to your parents.The prayer of your parents for you can actually fill your life with happiness and peace.
- I love this quote,
”Life is too short to be someone else”
5. Love yourself.Live your life and be happy.
What do you think
Does our happiness get influenced by the type of people we are surrounded by?